I’ve had too many encounters with MLM Posturing throughout my entire MLM Career. I believe I have reached my breaking point after a recent conversation. So ,I’ve been going back and forth on if I want to put this person on blast or not. This is a tough decision.
So let me explain my reasoning for the decision I’ve reached before I begin.
The MLM Posturing Must Come to an END in 2017
If this is what I have to do to end it, then as a leader in this space I’m going to Take this into my own hands and End it. If I block out this persons name, they may continue to go around carrying on with all the MLM Posturing that they are doing, harming others in our industry rather than helping. My goal here is to HELP!
Sometimes to HELP, I have to go ahead and point out specifically what is harming people in the MLM Space.
For quite some time now, on this blog, and in several videos, I have discussed the rapid amount of BAD LEADERSHIP in our Space today!
Well, in 2017, MLM Posturing has reached a level where it’s so out of control, that people are harming themselves, others, and the industry as a whole. I would go out and say that the entire rant that John Oliver went on (This Is A Pyramid Scheme) was entirely a fall out from the MLM Posturing that takes place.
It Must Stop!!!
For all our sakes – for the future of MLM – THIS most annoying aspect of our industry MUST be addressed and eradicated!
So that is why I am NOT blocking out the Name.
Screw it. This is a real Conversation that Happened. My commentary takes place ‘in between’ each shot.
Let’s use this as a Teachable Moment!
A recent conversation with a network marketer, prompted me to write an article today on why MLM Posturing must stop. In this conversation, in case you have no idea what that even means, you will see a prime example of it. The person doing it is not alone. Unfortunately the majority of network marketers today, especially the ones who ‘view themselves’ as leaders in this space, have NO idea what in the fuck they are doing. THEY DO know how to POSTURE though!
Posturing is an Old school method WE taught people back in the days, long before the internet, when we focused mostly on Friends and Family. Generally speaking, they KNOW that when you first joined an MLM, you did not KNOW anything about making money. Also, YOU knew this too. So several people, often need to learn how to share their business with confidence. They need to learn how to have a ‘confidence posture’ that shows they didn’t make a bad decision by joining an MLM. They need to show others that they are committed to what they are doing. Even if you are having doubts, it’s important for your posture to come across right to others.
Why? Energy is Transferable.
If you are confident about something you are engaged in doing, other people will have confidence in your ability to do it. Leaders learn to show confidence in their people, So that their people will have confidence in themselves. The same goes in reverse. When a leader shows lack of confidence in their people, their people doubt themselves AND That leader too!
This is really where MLM Posturing comes from.
MLM’er #1 is in a company they are excited about and comes across another person in MLM. We’ll call that person MLM’er #2, who realizes that #1 is also excited about what they do. Problem is, #1 is desperate! They can’t find people to join them, and so they are seeking business partners to join what they are excited about. They don’t want to join anything else, but they want others to join them. Again, I’ve broken this entire thing down in a Training we provide to our team inside the One MLM System – on Networking with Networkers — MOST networkers are horrible at networking!
Why is that? – Because too many networkers are not developing themselves. They come into the industry tuned into WIIFM. The entire goal of self development, which real leaders in MLM should be engaged in daily, is to broaden your interests. It’s to help you understand that success is NOT about WIIFM. It’s about learning HOW to help OTHER people, not ‘just yourself’… and this is a difficult lesson for people to learn. It’s very difficult for people in MLM to learn too – because MOST people join for selfish reasons.
We’re not making enough money.
We’re behind on bills, or want to invest and don’t have enough money To invest at the end of each month.
We’d like to create a better financial plan for our future but, there isn’t enough income coming in; and the costs of starting a traditional business are too high.
So we turn to MLM.
We come to the industry selfish.
IF we stick around long enough, we learn that posturing DOES matter.
BUT if we’re lucky, we’ll also learn, there is a time and place for all things – ESPECIALLY posturing!
So to the evidence….. with commentary; thanks for reading the ‘context’ – so you understand why I’m going there today.
So this is where the conversation began really.
She posted something about Training she was offering and I liked her post – (I did that because I show support to other network marketers. I don’t mind giving out likes to other people’s pages as it helps their page look more engaged. Sadly, most network marketers do not appreciate the little things like ‘likes’ from others they add)
She assumed (always bad) that I needed training; and proceeded to Offer me that training – (sadly, MLM’ers get defensive and she’s probably thinking that she did not Assume. She asked. Can’t I see she asked?! — OF course she asked; b/c you are a Marketer; You Planned to ask that question to everyone who liked that post; NOTHING IS WRONG THERE — The problem here is I told Her, “I Don’t Need Training” —–
AKA CLUE #1 – Do Not MLM Posture With People Who Are Not Interested!
Again — SO FAR this seems innocent right?
She’s asking for my website ‘so she can send people in my direction?’ — is she REALLY and GENUINELY Interested in HELPING ME??
Because saying that, makes it “SOUND” like she is – and again, this is another reason I’m not blocking out a name; I need all of you to Quit being Disingenuous; Listen, at the time, I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt, and just answer her question – and PRETEND she had no Ulterior motives … but .. .she does; Just wait for it.
Again – she asked; I answered.
I didn’t give her my MLM website for Topnetworkersgroup; I gave her a site that I started to “re-devlop” over 2 years ago; and am slowly building out, at my own pace. It’s a platform that will help the ENTIRE home business industry, not JUST network marketing. It’s an educational resource.
And most importantly if SHE really wanted to SEND people my way; IT is the SITE I would like HER to send people to.
So rather than a COOL Thanks, I’ll send people your way ….
She does this bullshit here – MLM Posturing at it’s LOWEST! smh
First off, she asks if this is my project. YES it’s my project?! — Did you NOT pay attention to what we were fucking talking about???
Secondly — She keeps apologizing, because SHE KNOWS she’s not reading my Fucking messages; NOR does she give a shit about ME or what I do; OR my Project!
How do I know? She didn’t even LOOK at the fucking site!
She responded “the Next Day” – lying, claiming that she did look (which again is a lie, because she asked if I’m still designing it or if it’s for the future; the site is clearly fully operational – had she LOOKED like she claimed, she would already know!!!) —- But worse than LYING about not looking; She goes on to OFFER ME ADVICE.
Folks, when did I ever fucking ASK For advice?
If you’re a network marketer, do YOU do that shit too?
Do you understand how Annoying of Offensive that is to people YOU DO NOT FUCKING KNOW?
This woman has no idea who I am, what I know, or more importantly, WHAT i’m even doing with this website I Showed her. (I’ll explain in a bit) — Instead of go there, I attempted to simply have a short, brief conversation on my methods; She advised I use less words….
She didn’t ask if I have a method to my madness 🙂
However I explained to her that I feel as leaders we need to encourage MORE reading; rather than LESS!
Since she wants to offer up her unrequested advice – I decided to give her some as well.
And as you can all see, she took offense – and decided to make excuses for all the Lazy people in the world – I have no doubt she is part of that club.
It’s clear that she’s not reading books on leadership.
She’s not really paying attention in training classes.
And all she’s truly learned, is MLM Posturing – which is on full display in this entire conversation. Again, she’s telling me ‘who my target market is’.
She does not know who my target market is!
First, she tells me THEY are not looking for a long read.
No …. YOU are not looking for a long read. Let’s start there. YOU as a leader, do not like to read, and so you are teaching OTHERS in MLM not to read.
THIS IS BAD for network marketing.
Go look that up Ms. Life Coach.
The fuck kind of advice is she (and so many others) giving out???
Speaking of which; as we can all see – THIS Is her entire goal; MLM Posturing.
She’s seeking to POSITION herself as the LEADER in the conversation we were having.
What makes her assume out of the blue that she can teach me shit?
For example – my ‘goal’ with SHB is not to go around marketing the site to people who are LOOKING for a ‘quick read’ … we are offering Videos and Audios; We are offering up ad space for people who want to advertise their business. We are offering a Home business owner Listing Directory – again for more business exposure. She has no Idea how I plan to use SEO and other methods to drive Traffic to this website – or even how much traffic is coming in now.
This broad is assuming I”m trying to sign people up into an MLM.
That’s why she’s advising Keep the Text Short.
Yea, if I’m Marketing a Business and using a LANDING Page, I’ll keep the READING To a minimum; but I don’t need YOUR Random Ass telling me this!
Yet, she’s not alone.
I’ve dealt with SOOOOO Many network marketers who do this shit!
It’s been an issue since 1999 when I started but, The internet has made this problem worse!!
They have no idea who I am; They’ve never watched my videos; never looked at my sites – they don’t have conversations with me.
They’re just looking for another person to buy something they are Re-Selling.
You cats need to understand for a moment, that not everyone in MLM is created equal.
We are not all on the same level – and YOU are not here to TEACH everyone.
Neither am I.
Here is the rest of what I said to her; Honestly I’m not interested in the reply now.
Sorry this part cut off – you get to read it twice; MLM Posturing must END!
She is most likely going to get UPSET that I’m daring to ‘talk back’ – she’ll be even more upset when I show her this blog.
But, who cares.
She didn’t care about me so why should I care about her?
Afterall those are the rules of leadership.
Rule #1 – people don’t care what you know, until they KNOW that you care.
She was in SO MUCH of a RUSH to try and POSTURE and position her self as someone to TEACH me; that she didn’t take the TIME to find out who I am.
Taking TIME to find out who people are, SHOWS them that you care.
BUT selfish people in our industry, thinking only about themselves, do not want to invest TIME into others; That is TIME They could have put into them SELVES – sadly, they are unable to see, how TIME invested into OTHERS is ‘also’ Time invested into them SELVES …. But, that’s a lesson, for another time.
….and yet, that’s the Lesson I’ve been teaching since 2010 – With Social networking For Money – and all throughout this blog.
The MLM Posturing must end.
If you ask someone ‘do you want training?” and they say no thanks — RESPECT The answer and move on.
Stop trying to TALK people into wanting what you have.
We are Professionals. We Sort, we do not Sell.
Updated 9/4/2017* – Thanks for stopping by. For more related Network Marketing Industry articles from TNG:
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